X-Message-Number: 1083 Date: 31 Jul 92 02:38:36 EDT From: "Steven B. Harris" <> Subject: Man With Seven Frozen Wives... Charles Platt writes: >>I have yet another question for people on the net. Suppose that a man's wife is placed in suspension at a relatively early age--say, 40. Suppose that he is a cryonicist himself, and he believes that she is not dead in the usual sense. He looks forward to a time when the two of them will emerge from suspension and enjoy a new life in the future together. ... The man in my example must now feel ambivalent about ever remarrying. If he does, and his new wife signs up to be frozen, he risks a situation where he, and she, and his first wife will all be revived together. In that case, his first wife might feel horribly betrayed.<< Ahem. The standard answer that we Enlightened Cryonicists usually give to modern Sadducees who ask such deliberately vexing questions to challenge our belief in the resurrection of the body, is that "ye do err, not knowing the future, nor the power of nanotechnology. For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as angels." Angels in an utterly different kind of life. Perhaps in space. Perhaps in other kinds of bodies. Perhaps uploaded as virtual beings. The social structure is going to be all changed, you see, even as the social structure of today (the new "family") has been drastically changed by the advent of welfare, the pill, abortion, and the shift in mores. Monogamy is getting rarer even as we speak, and in the world to come it is going to be rarer still. Now, what to tell people to get them to accept this pos- sibility of future drastic social change now? Well, I don't think it's really that much of a problem, because most aren't going to worry about it. It seems at first that many second spouses would see dead first spouses as much more likely to be rivals, if frozen; and one would think that such a situation of potential future conflict would powerfully influence the accep- tance of cryonics. I might think so too, had I not had much ex- perience with the real life subculture of Mormonism, in which exactly this problem occurs. Modern Mormons believe that men are literally allowed many wives (polygamy, or more exactly, poly- gyny) in the life to come. Thus, good Mormon wives of men who have a dead wife may expect in their faith to be wife number two (at the very least) in the afterlife. Would many such women nowadays put up with this in _real_ life? Not on your life, in Utah as anywhere else. Utah Mormon women did in the 19th century, to be sure (with much grumbling and complaining), but the number who will today is limited to a few offshoot apostates. So--- does this possibility bother conservative Republican sexually uptight Mormon wives today? Answer: not much, because they don't have to deal with it. A wife who is permanently offstage for the foreseeable future, so to speak, doesn't count emotionally. So-- in short, my answer is that the increased possibility of such spousal rivalry which cryonics brings is not realistically going to affect how many people behave now, humans being built emotionally the way they are. And in the future when all these possibilities actually arrive, I really don't think it's going to be a problem. Or, rather, other things will outweigh it. Don't worry about how many spouses you once had after they revive you-- worry about whether or not you have the new software. It isn't so much that without that new software people won't want to talk to you, it's that (as Mike Darwin reminds us) without that new software people WON'T BE ABLE TO TALK TO YOU. Etc, etc. Your marriage is the least of your problems. Steve Rate This Message: http://www.cryonet.org/cgi-bin/rate.cgi?msg=1083