X-Message-Number: 1171
Date: Thu, 27 Aug 92 23:07:24 PDT
From: Lola McCrary <>
Subject: CRYONICS:  Responsibilities to Loved Ones in Suspension

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   From: Paul Wakfer <>

   Re Obligations to Loved Ones in Suspension:

   I have been sporadically following this thread, because while I am
   always interested in new moral dilemmas, I myself have been self-
   sexual for over 10 years now (happily so for the last 5).  I now
   consider a deep abiding need for, and bonding to, a partner (mate,
   lover, spouse, etc.) to be a sign of a not fully developed sense of


   From: Charles Platt <>
   I am extremely interested by Paul Wakfer's comment that 
   emotional/sexual bonding is symptomatic of insufficiently 
   developed sense of self. Paul is (seemingly) one of the most 
   self-sufficient people I have ever met, and I admire his
   ability not to need romantic entanglements. 

A quote:
         You can live by yourself, you can gather friends around.
         You can choose one special one.
         But the only measure of your words and your deeds
         Will be the love you leave behind when you're done.
                    (c) by Fred Small, from "Everything Possible."

I respect Paul's choice to be "self-sexual", but do not respect his scorn for
anyone who chooses intimate relationships.  That seems to me to be
a sign of self centeredness, not self sufficiency.  Self sufficient people do
not deride the life style choices of other reasonable adults.

This is, however, getting very off topic.

Lola McCrary

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