X-Message-Number: 2621
Subject: CRYONICS: Spouses/Partners not signed up for suspension.
Date: Mon, 21 Feb 1994 12:14:54 -0500
From: "Perry E. Metzger" <>

> I would be interested in getting comments from cryonicists whose
> spouses/partners/significant others are not signed up for cryonic suspension.
> How do you feel about this? Do you try to "sell" your partner on cryonics?

My "domestic partner" is not signed up, and I don't think she ever
will be. She doesn't believe in it and has residual religious memes
floating around in her head.

I've never tried to press the matter. In fact, I don't even mention it
much, if ever. I decided a long time ago that ultimately all of us are
responsible for our own fate, and that most of us get angry when
others attempt to intervene in our decision making process without us
requesting that they do so. I try to make information available to
people that I would like to see aware of that information, but I
rarely if ever give unsolicited advice.

I'm open about the fact that I'm going to be cryopreserved after I
become medically hopeless -- I don't try to bring it up but I'll
mention it if the conversation comes around to such matters, so most
of my friends and my S.O. are quite aware by now. Sometimes people
will ask me for more information, and sometimes they won't. If people
want to know more, I tell them. If they don't, I don't. 

My S.O. knows that she can ask me for more information if she decides
that it is something she wants to know more about. Copies of
"cryonics" and the like are all over the apartment we share. Should
she ever be in a frame of mind to become interested again, I'll
happily discuss it with her. Until then, however, I'd rather not
alienate her, and simultaneously reduce the chances that she'll ever
get interested, by nagging or pushing or otherwise trying to impose my
world view on someone who isn't interested.


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