X-Message-Number: 30042 From: Date: Tue, 20 Nov 2007 22:06:06 EST Subject: fear addendum Although it's only an anecdote and not important anyway, it might be of some small interest to note my own recollection of near-death experiences. I do not mean the reported visions or revelations some people claim--only the fact of having been objectively close to death, or in substantial danger of dying very soon. I have been near death five times--not counting ordinary days under fire on the battlefield in wartime--and recall being afraid only once. Of course any number of conjectures could be made about these recollections--maybe I have doctored the memories or suppressed others, or maybe the fear was there but repressed, blah blah blah. But I trust my memories more than I trust the slipshod polls and interviews conducted by psychologists trying to get published. Incidentally, there is a fairly common misapprehension abroad to the effect that soldiers are most afraid when first under fire, then grow tougher with experience. The reverse is true. The ones most afraid are those who have been exposed longest. In life in general, however, it is usually the younger who are most afraid of death. Older people are less likely to be afraid, or likely to be less afraid, as judged by what they say and what they do--even though this generality is skewed by the bravado of young men, driven by testosterone and culture. I have become less and less fearful as I age, and as far as I can tell the only thing that frightens me now is the prospect of a stroke. Those so inclined can shrug this off as a mere anecdote with little or no evidentiary value, but I also observe this in others. The reasons for less fear in the general aging population is probably primarily a loss of vitality or zest, including declining physical and mental powers, plus in many cases a recognition that previous goals are out of reach and that there is a degree of comfort in relaxing rather than struggling. In addition, our emotional lives to some extent are tied to our parents and others of the older generation, who are now gone. There is hardly anybody left that you want to impress, or who can give you meaningful support, with few exceptions other than your children and siblings and a very few friends, if you are lucky. Institutions can sometimes offer help--churches and fraternal organizations and so on--but for the most part this help requires you to accept various kinds of delusion. It has been often observed that cryonics organizations should imitate the social functions of other institutions, but again, for the near term, this is probably out of reach because of our small numbers and disparate styles of life. I see I've been rambling. Ah, well. No one is compelled to read this stuff. At this point I think I will just ask again, if anyone is willing to answer, what Alcor's experience has been with hired PR people. If you are willing to respond, please be specific--how much was spent, what was done, objective results in terms of new memberships. Robert Ettinger **************************************Check out AOL's list of 2007's hottest products. (http://money.aol.com/special/hot-products-2007?NCID=aoltop00030000000001) Content-Type: text/html; charset="US-ASCII" [ AUTOMATICALLY SKIPPING HTML ENCODING! ] Rate This Message: http://www.cryonet.org/cgi-bin/rate.cgi?msg=30042