X-Message-Number: 8485
From:  (Brent Allsop)
Newsgroups: sci.cryonics
Subject: Re: Hostile family members?
Date: 18 Aug 1997 23:43:07 GMT
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References: <5svepq$17q4$> <>

Cryonauts,

	Thanks for the support and helpful comments from all.  The
specific problem I'm dealing with is I just showed my wife CryCare's
"Relative's Affidavit" from <URL:
http://www.cryocare.org/signup/relative.txt> and asked her what she
thought about filling it out and signing it.  She said she didn't want
to have anything to do with it including signing any such document.

	Currently I have purchased a >$250K life insurance policy with
my wife and family as the beneficiaries.  I was hopping to be able to
specify a cryonics company as the partial beneficiary of this policy
but evidently my wife would not support this.  I guess the legal
question is, since I'm paying for the policy (my wife is a homemaker),
do I have the right (both legally AND ETHICALLY!) to cut my wife out
as a beneficiary against her will?  And, would such an action
specified by me be upheld in court once I am gone?

	Brian Wowk <> indicated:

> 	Realistically, though, there is a lot a spouse can do to
> interfere with your timely cryopreservation.  Taking "control of
> your remains" is actually a more difficult problem than the threat
> to assets.

	This makes a lot of sense.  I guess I'm really in the process
of: first, communicating my will and then trying to find out who will
support my will and who will not.  And then trying to win the support
of as many friends and family that might be around as I can get.
Cryonics gives me great comfort in this iffy life.  It's very ironic
to have the most iffy part seem to be friends, family, and the law.

"Paul Titze VK2THN [HACK.AU.]" <>
commented:

> My advice: Tell her either she agrees with your plans or you divorce :)

	If only things were this easy.  If I do this will my 3
children be more or less likely to end up pro/anti cryonics?  Despite
our differences, I do love my wife.  If I do leave her, will she be
more or less likely to be pro/anti cryonics in the end?  For me, being
in heaven isn't worth near as much if I'm without my friends (and
enemies!)

Brian continued:

> 	Your best bet for now is probably to bide your time and try to
> understand and address the opposition.  It's possible that
> continuing technical developments in cryonics may cause it to be
> perceived differently in ten years than it is today.

	Yes!  Thanks for your confidence.  I just hope I am successful
enough, that I last long enough, and the required developments are
achieved soon enough.  I appreciate everyone's ideas about what to do
until then.

		Brent Allsop

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